Self-Confidence is not something that can be defined.
It is a feeling of trust that one has in their abilities, qualities and judgements. It means you accept yourself as you are and have a sense of control in your life.
Self-Confidence plays a very important role in one’s health and psychological well-being.
Having a healthy level of self-confidence helps you become more successful in their personal life as well as professional life.
“Regardless of how you feel inside, always try to look like a winner. Even if you are behind, a sustained look of control and confidence can give you a mental edge that results in victory.”-Diane Arbus
The best part is self-confidence is something that one can improve. Building self-confidence requires you to cultivate a positive outlook about oneself as well as learning how to deal with one’s negative emotions that comes in your way.
A few ways to deal with boosting your self-confidence are:-
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
First and foremost thing to boost self-confidence is to stop comparing yourself to others.
If one ought to build up their confidence then one needs to know that someone is always going to be prettier, smarter and richer. Embrace this fear of yours. At one point, you will need to get over this fact.
Additionally, studies have found that people spending more time on social media do have a chance to lack more self-confidence. As people are more
encouraged to compare themselves with others by seeing the accomplishments of other people.
This activity helps in dealing with so many complicated emotions at once. It helps you to feel more gratitude towards everyone rather than trying to become the centre of attraction.
One cannot feel good if one continuously abuses their own body. Even the basic steps like bathing regularly, brushing your teeth or eating healthy food can be huge steps in boosting self-confidence.
Making time for yourself when in a busy schedule is also a way to help yourself without even you realising.
When you start believing in yourself, you are on the way in increasing self-confidence.
Some basic exercises always help the body to be in shape as well as the
mind to think clearly.
Exercise doesn’t need to be complicated. With sleep being the most important thing, one should prioritize their sleeping hours as well as habits.
CULTIVATING A GOOD ATTITUDE
Always try to identify your negative thoughts so that you can convert them through a positive outlook towards them.
One can always start their day with a few positive thoughts like “I am going to make it through this end” or “I can be successful if I work at it”.
Start maintaining a positive support network. One should not keep those people who only feel the need to de-motivate you.
Avoid spending time around things that make you feel bad about yourself. Half of the people are not able to accept a compliment in their way which only leads to self-doubting.
Take pride in yourself and accept those compliments graciously. Try to identify the goodness in you and how you are going to savour it.
PRACTICING SELF COMPASSION
Self-compassion basically involves treating yourself with “KINDNESS” when you make a mistake or experience a setback.
Every person on this planet makes mistakes but they learn from it as well. And learning does not mean being harsh or beating yourself up.
Learning actually means accepting your flaws and watching out for them in the near future.
Like A P J Abdul Kalam said, “If you fail, never give up because F.A.I.L means ‘First Attempt In Learning’; End is not the end, in fact, E.N.D means ‘Efforts Never Dies’.”
Prepare yourself for such situations through motivating speech or ted talks. Cut some slack on yourself, laugh at your mistakes and remind yourself that no one in this world is perfect.
PERFORM BEHAVIOURAL EXPERIMENTS
Half of the time we don’t do things which we actually can if we gave it a chance and then we regret it later.
Perhaps our brain tells us we won’t be able to do it or the people around us as well.
Well, try performing Behavioural Experiments. These experiments are very harmless by nature.
These are the experiments where we try telling our brain and other people that it is just an experiment and see what happens. It’s a win-win situation for everyone.
However small the challenge may be, challenge you. It is the motto of self-growth. Take some help from others to get you close to the victory but do.
Elisabeth Gilbert, the author of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’, gave a very inspirational ted talks on success, failure and the drive to keep Creating. It might be helpful to hear her ted talk.